Why can’t you achieve the goals you set?
Got goals? Millions of words have been written about goals. I’ve written thousands of them. Ninety-nine percent of the words focus on how to set and achieve them in one form or another. Books, articles, videos, seminars, online courses and classic classroom learning.
Everyone sets goals. Some people set them on their own; others have them set for them (sales goals, sales plans, sales quotas). Some people make elaborate game plans for goal achievement; others write them down in their day planner; others just cut out a picture from a magazine depicting something they wish they had but don’t (car, boat, house, vacation).
Me? I post my goals on my bathroom mirror. In plain sight.
Many passé seminar leaders and motivational speakers claim, “Less than 4 percent of all people set goals.” Baloney. Everyone has a goal, or many goals. If you’re looking for a category that fits the 4 percent number, it’s the people that actually achieve the goals they set.
Ever set a goal you failed to achieve?
Ever stop in the middle of a goal?
Ever fall back to your old ways?
Of course you have. Everyone has.
Want to know why?
Enter Ali Edwards. On Ali’s Web site, www.aliedwardsdesign.com, she asks her readers (me among them), “What are your intentions?” It was a WOW!, an AHA! and WAY COOL! all at the same time.
Goals and intentions are linked. Intentions actually precede goal setting. If you fall short of intention, you will not likely achieve the goal you set. What a simple, powerful concept. And what a truth.
Ali simply asks: What are your intentions? What do you intend to do? The actions to achieve it will follow.
Goals or intentions — which are more powerful?
You may have a goal, or you may have been given a goal, but your intentions will dictate the outcome of the effort (or lack of it).
What do you intend to do?
Think about these questions:
What do you want to do?
What do you need to do?
What do you have to do?
What do you love to do?
How much do you love what you do?
Do you dislike what you do?
Now, maybe you can better answer what you intend to do.
Your intentions are the thoughts behind your actions. Intentions are the justification behind your words and deeds. If you intend to manipulate, your words and deeds will follow. If your intentions are pure, your words and deeds will follow. If you intend to achieve your goals, or a specific goal, your words and deeds will follow.
I believe that love and intentions are connected more passionately than fear and intentions, or greed and intentions. Everyone has heard the adage “The road to hell is paved with good intentions.” Personally, I believe the opposite.
There are types of intentions. The easiest to define are “good” and “bad.” To intend to do the right thing or intend to do the wrong thing. Sometimes your intention to do the wrong thing is justified by the way you feel. You believe someone “deserves” what you’re about to do. I believe that’s the “hell” intention.
Whatever your intentions are, they form the basis for your actions, the foundation for the achievement of your goals, the manifestation of your desires and ultimately the fulfillment of your dreams.
Maybe you need to write down your intentions BEFORE you write your goals. Start each sentence with “I intend to…” or even bolder “By the end of the week I intend to…” Timing your intentions makes them much more real.
An easy way to make your intentions clear is to categorize them. Organize the categories, then write the words to define them. Single words for categories and sentences to define your intentions.
Categories such as personal, career, job, study, read, business, life, family, money, fun, travel and passion.
Then write what you intend to do and by when. “I intend by this date…” Short spaces of time are the best – this year, this month, this week, this day, this minute.
What do you intend to do?
I intend to write another column next week, my 752nd. I intend to complete the writing and publishing of two more books in 2007.
If you’d like to read Ali Edwards’ take on intentions, her essay and scrapbook on the subject, which originally appeared in “Creating Keepsakes” magazine, go to www.gitomer.com, register if you’re a first-time user, and enter the word ALI in the GitBit box.
Jeffrey Gitomer can be reached by phone at (704) 333-1112 or by e-mail at salesman@gitomer.com.
© 2006 Jeffrey H. Gitomer