We went to visit the Eiffel Tower again. When it was built, it was the most controversial structure of all time. Hundreds protested it, criticized it, campaigned against it, said it was a disgrace to architecture and predicted it would be the ruination of Paris.

The story is fascinating. You can read about its history on Wikipedia, where I learned, “Some of the protestors eventually changed their minds when the tower was built. Others remained unconvinced. Guy de Maupassant supposedly ate lunch in the Tower’s restaurant every day. When asked why, he answered that it was the one place in Paris where one could not see the structure.”

EPILOGUE: The tower was built to world acclaim. It’s one of the most impressive structures in the universe. An estimated 10 million people a year visit to admire its glory. It is the heart and soul of Paris, and it’s the symbol by which the city has been known for more than 100 years.

At the base of his tower, there’s an amazing statue to honor Gustave Eiffel. Interesting to note that none of the people who criticized him have statues at the base. How much more wrong could the protesters and critics have been? Were they trying to build up or tear down? – Encourage or disparage? In hindsight, the critics seem shallow, self-serving, prejudiced and baseless.

Kind of like today’s critics.

Call it what you will, a naysayer, by any other name, is just that. And what are these people really saying?

• Are they debating? Or discussing and deciding?

• Are they blaming “it” or “them”? Or are they offering answers and taking responsibility for the remedy?

• Do they talk about what they will do? Or about what someone else didn’t do?

• Did they talk about what didn’t happen, who’s wrong and why it won’t work? Or did they offer their ideas about what could be?

And of course, today’s world paints criticism as some sort of pious, politically correct and necessary element of society.

REALITY: People criticize to suit themselves, further their agenda or even make the sale.

In the late 1800s, Finnish composer Jean Sibelius said, “Pay no attention to people who criticize. No statue was ever erected to a critic.”

Makes me stop and think. I hope it does the same for you.

How much of your time is wasted criticizing other people, their ideas or their thoughts? And how could you be investing that time to build your own monument? Your own Eiffel Tower.

YOUR REAL JOB: Convert your criticism to answers, resolve, solutions and responsibility. You’ll be thought of as a thinker, make more sales, build stronger relationships, earn a better reputation, be seen as a resource and be a happier person.

Dale Carnegie, author of the 70-year best seller “How to Win Friends and Influence People,” nailed it in 1915 when he penned his most dominant principle, “Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain (and most fools do).”

There should be a law that says all criticism must be followed by a solution, an answer, a resolve or an idea. That would shut a lot of people up – or at least make them think and see the positive side of things.

FOOTNOTE: Apple Inc. just released the much anticipated iPhone 5. The critics lined up to tell you how it “falls short” or “disappoints” or some baloney about speed or connectivity or maps or keyboard. They gave it three and a half stars.

Meanwhile Apple, in spite of the jackass critics, has sold 10 million phones in the first 30 days for $400 a device. Do that math. I wonder how much critics earn?